Dating in the 1960s was a world of strict rules, rigid gender roles, and societal expectations that would make today’s teenagers scratch their heads. From chaperoned dates to curfews, the dating scene back then was a far cry from today’s casual, tech-driven relationships. Let’s take a nostalgic (and slightly cringe-worthy) trip down memory lane with 14 outdated dating rules from the 1960s that baffle modern teens.
1. Always Wait for the Guy to Make the First Move
In the 1960s, it was practically forbidden for a girl to ask a guy out. Women were expected to wait patiently for men to take the lead. Today, with dating apps and social media, anyone can make the first move—gender norms be damned!
2. No Public Displays of Affection (PDA)
Holding hands or stealing a quick kiss in public was considered scandalous in the ’60s. Couples were expected to keep their affection private. Fast forward to today, and PDA is practically a social media requirement—just check Instagram.
3. Chaperoned Dates Were the Norm
Teenagers in the 1960s often had to bring a chaperone on dates, especially if they were going to a dance or a party. Today, the idea of bringing a parent or older sibling along on a date would be mortifying for most teens.
4. Curfews Were Non-Negotiable
Strict curfews were a staple of 1960s dating. Teenagers had to be home by a certain time, no exceptions. These days, curfews still exist, but they’re often more flexible, and teens can always text their parents if they’re running late.
5. Boys Paid for Everything
In the ’60s, it was expected that the guy would foot the bill for every date—dinner, movie tickets, even snacks. Today, splitting the bill or taking turns paying is much more common, reflecting modern ideas of equality.
6. No Dating Until You Were “Official”
Casual dating was practically unheard of in the 1960s. Couples were expected to be exclusive from the start, and “talking” or “seeing someone” without a clear commitment was frowned upon. Today, casual dating and “situationships” are the norm.
7. Parents Had to Approve Your Date
Before you could go out with someone in the 1960s, your parents had to give their stamp of approval. Meeting the parents was a big deal, and if they didn’t like your date, it could spell the end of the relationship. Today, many teens don’t even introduce their dates to their parents until they’re serious.
8. No Phone Calls After 9 PM
In the 1960s, calling someone too late at night was considered rude and intrusive. Today, texting at all hours is perfectly normal, and late-night conversations are a hallmark of modern dating.
9. Girls Had to Play Hard to Get
Women were encouraged to act aloof and uninterested, even if they liked someone. Playing hard to get was seen as a way to keep a guy’s interest. Today, honesty and direct communication are valued far more than mind games.
10. Dates Were Always Planned in Advance
Spontaneous hangouts were rare in the 1960s. Dates were planned days or even weeks in advance, often with a formal invitation. Today, last-minute plans and casual meetups are the norm, thanks to texting and social media.
11. No Dating Outside Your Race or Religion
Interracial and interfaith relationships were heavily stigmatized in the 1960s, and many families disapproved of them. Today, while challenges still exist, diversity in relationships is widely accepted and celebrated.
12. Girls Couldn’t Call Boys
Just like making the first move, calling a boy on the phone was seen as too forward for girls in the 1960s. Today, texting and calling are equal-opportunity activities, and no one thinks twice about who initiates contact.
13. Dates Were Always Group Activities
One-on-one dates were rare for teenagers in the 1960s. Instead, group outings to dances, drive-ins, or bowling alleys were the norm. Today, solo dates are much more common, and group hangouts are just one option among many.
14. Marriage Was the Ultimate Goal
In the 1960s, dating was often seen as a direct path to marriage. Teenagers were expected to settle down young and start families. Today, marriage is just one of many options, and many people prioritize careers, travel, and personal growth before tying the knot.
How Times Have Changed
The dating rules of the 1960s may seem quaint, restrictive, or downright bizarre to teenagers today. While some aspects of dating have undoubtedly improved—like greater equality and freedom—others might argue that the simplicity and formality of the ’60s had their charm. Either way, it’s clear that dating has evolved dramatically over the decades, and who knows what the future will bring?
